Moving to California: Military Editon. Driving in Cali

I’ve driven in a lot of cities. From Philadelphia, Washington DC, and Seattle. Just a few places that is known to have some traffic.

Southern California is a different type of traffic. One I wish I could quantify into words.

It’s a place you can have road rage driving the speed limit. Where you wonder why the traffic isn’t moving at all. When you get paranoid something is wrong when there is no traffic.

Luckily there are several spots that if you look on the road it will tell you things. Like the speed limit. Or when the interstate splits into 2 it will say which lanes lead where.

Once you get it down it can be easy.

You have any where from 4 lanes to 8 lanes on the interstate.

The HOV is in certain areas. And be careful because at certain points they move. It expands or decreases the HOV (depending on which lane you’re in).

I’ve noticed that some people do not turn their neck when they merge. What do I mean by that? They don’t look and just merge. And they will either hit people or cause what I call and almost accident.

That is something I had to get used to. If someone has their turn signal on. Be cautious as they will merge right away even if a car is there.

After a certain point in night we won’t go out and do things.

Oh you want us to drive down and have dinner with you? That 30 minute drive just turned into an 2 hour drive.

“What is that person doing?” Is something my husband often says.

It seems not many people know how to zipper here. Many lanes merge down and there isn’t a lot of room. It would be easy if people zippered. But it tends to take some time.

One of my favorite is leaving the Naval Hospital. To get to 163, 3 lanes that are 2 each merge down to 1 in about half a mile. It takes me about 15 minutes to do during traffic. 5 if no traffic. It’s a joy when 3 lanes suddenly become 1 and everyone wants to merge into that 1.

Things to know!

Don’t stay in the right lane unless you are exiting or merging the interstate. It will be slow.

The far left lane is the fast lane. If you’re doing the speed limit people behind you will be upset.

In a lot of places the right lane is the exit lane, and will pick back up in the entrance lane.

If you have an manual car be careful. They don’t like to give space here. I’ve scared a few people when I roll back a bit (maybe 3 inches to be honest). Because they like to get right up on your bumper. It isn’t like that every where. It just seems in the places where you know you’ll roll back a bit (hello steep hills).

Know where the schools are. If you drive an area know. Why do I say this? Where my daughter goes the pick up spot is on the side of the road. So the right lane is mainly for that. If you want to get through without stopping go in the left lane.

Buses like to pull out right in front of you. 🤦‍♀️

If your GPS says 30 minute drive. Add 15 minutes to that. I tend to add more if parking garage. Say an hour. So I can drive, park in parking garage, and walk to where I need to go. I’m usually 5-10 minutes early. But on occasions I can be late depending on traffic.

Give it a month to get used to. And just know depending on where you go the traffic changes.

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Moving to California: Military Editon. Welcome Post

Military|PCS|California

I will be writing a series about getting orders to California.

You’ve been waiting for a while. You picked a few places and prayed. And you finally received said orders to California.

The series will include moving to California. Driving in California. The different bases around. And more.

Welcome to my blog post series about getting orders to California. A series I made up for others who just received orders to PCS to California.

Currently we live in Southern California and have been here the past 2 years. I’ve learned a lot and want to pass it on to other spouses.

Hope you enjoy this series. The series will be released on Thursdays.

It’s the belief that gets you there

I grew up believing in Santa.

But what your Jewish. So true. I started converting when I was 16.

But I grew up with the belief in Santa.

For me it’s all about the belief. Whatever you want as long as you believe that is all that matters.

I found out a friend wouldn’t have much money for Santa for her kids. And they are at the age where the belief is the greatest.

I didn’t want that taken from them.

Why take away a belief too soon. Especially when it can be cherished.

So we are providing Santa gifts. We will be Santa this year.

Not to be a good friend. Not to be a good person. But so those little kids can have one more year of Santa.

Growing up is hard. Don’t need to push it. One more year of Santa isn’t too much to ask for

Brandless

Brandless is an online store. Stating you can buy brandless things for cheaper.

I placed and order. And waited. It finally arrived. Ignore my stove, spaghetti got sloppy

This is what you see when you open the box.

So the paper on top is just there. Everything is throw in. I will say the cookies got broke.

I ordered dish soap and well… it leaked.

The cookie were good. I will say worth $3

I am allergic to weird things. But hey I can eat this.

I got these 2 items. We’ve needed an ice cream scoop for a while now.

Hmmm I will say these smell nice. But 35 for $3. I’ll let you decide.

We got a few more things. It was up in the air if they are worth it.

The coffee pods were not worth it. $3 for 6 pods when I can get more pods for $5. But the coffee is better in other pods.

I won’t be buying Brandless again. To me it wasn’t worth it. I can PrimeNow with Amazon and get some stuff cheaper. And it’s a fast shipment. This took over almost 2 weeks to arrive.

They need to pack the bag better.

Life being Life

I had several blog posts that were scheduled. But some how they never went out.

Life being Life.

Sometimes life happens. So those blog posts will come up soon.

My PTSD medicine was changed a few months ago. I was wanting to try a different medicine to see if it could better control my tremors. Sadly that wasn’t the case.

I have agoraphobia. Agoraphobia can affect people in different ways. My agoraphobia began shortly after I was diagnosed with PTSD. With my PTSD I wanted a safe place. And so my agoraphobia began. I wasn’t diagnosed with agoraphobia for several months. Because some of the symptoms match PTSD.

I also have OCD, obsessive compulsive disorder. I was CLINICALLY diagnosed with it early in life. I’m not talking about I just have to have things in a certain order. Where people claim to have OCD because they like things a certain way. No that isn’t OCD.

I grew up with OCD. I am lucky and can manage it without medicine. It took a lot of years to learn to live with it, and not fight against it. But I will say my PTSD medicine does help with my OCD. Which is strange because I miss my OCD.

I still do things that are connected with my OCD. I’ve recently noticed that I won’t do something that is classified as a compulsion. I have rituals and habits that are compulsions. Not all rituals and habits are compulsions. This is something I can’t just say, okay one day I won’t do it. It’s just something that I’ve allowed not to ruin my life. As I stated before I’ve learned to live with it.

I was recently diagnosed with TMJ/TMD. I am getting injections in my jaw and acupuncture. These things help with the pain. A few points of acupuncture help with my arthritis. So I can eat. I’ve lost 15lbs. The pain to open my jaw is so great that I don’t eat.

Life is life.

You gotta learn to live with what you were given.