I was sent several screen shots from friend(s). I use the pural because several people sent me the same screen shots.
Okay I’ll call her DependaSally (oh did I just use the word DEPENDA as in a military spouse who either works from home or doesn’t work, spends majority of their time online, does not take care of their kids, does not take care of their house, spends all her active duty spouse’s money, etc. Cause yes she is defined by this by many military wives here).
DependaSally stated that I hacked her husband’s Facebook.
Immediately all my friends who saw this in so many groups sent me screen shots. And we laughed so hard. Because honestly it is HARD to hack someone’s Facebook. You would have to know personal stuff, or have a certain set of skills.
I do not have hacking skills. My friends laughed sending me those screen shots because they know once I forgot the password to my computer and my husband had to “hack”into it (thank you windows command prompt). I began to laugh. I said to one friend “do you think I could apply to NSA just by the word of DependaSally that I can do this?”
I got sent screen shots of people questioning DependaSally and why she was accusing me. And even several pointing out how hard is it hack into someone’s Facebook. And magically DependaSally deletes her post like they are magically going to disappear.
For those of who you don’t know. Facebook is a giant database. So you say a mean thing to someone, and delete it. IT DOESN’T GET DELETED. It is saved in a very big storage farm. As one friend pointing out that many of them are in Oregon.
So hey if you’ve been liked DependaSally and made some statements on Facebook, and delete them like they didn’t happy. Sorry to inform you that is wrong. I don’t just mean by screenshots.
Apparently I have special powers that I didn’t even know I had. Go me!!
I have recently begun to wonder about the effects of social media on our lives, well mine.
So before I began I happen to love Randy Rainbow and here is a song.
Because I thought we all needed a laugh before I jumped into this.
Sometime between 2004-2005 after Facebook had been creating I was sitting at a table eating lunch with some college friends. They were on Facebook and I had no clue what they were talking about. So they explained it to me and helped me signed up for my first account.
Through the time and over the years I have seen Facebook grow. I have seen social media grow. And with that I’ve also seen hatred grow.
When Facebook Groups were first made I am unsure if Facebook knew what power they would hold.
Michael Sellick who ran Crochet~Along Crochet Crowders group
“Considering the limitations that Facebook can offer in Group Pages, our team has made a heart wrenching decision to discontinue this group page for reasons that stem well beyond our control.
Our team wants to focus and donate our time to help crocheters by creating content in the form of blogs, pattern writing, social interaction, video content, live events, suggest patterns, and more, our team really wants to focus on the free educational component of what has made us The Crochet Crowd and discontinue ourselves from having to be a police content. I love to crochet but more importantly, I love to share skills with you all and teach. I want to focus on the next latest patterns, be excited and enjoy it with you. Not worry about coming up from my studio and seeing the next swaft of emails of complaints for me to deal with. My resources are limited.
This page was originally designed for The Crochet Crowd Crochet-Alongs. It was to help for the Crochet Challenges but morphed into something so much bigger. It was never meant to be a general socialization page. We enjoyed how it morphed and thank you for being part of this community. I’ve had many celebrations along with you.
There is not enough time in our schedules to moderate this page as closely as others demand from us. So in light of this, we’ve chosen to stick to our educational platform. Based on the mental health of our team, we have to discontinue to this page. We have to continue to focus on our joys and happiness where yarn and crochet collide.
We will gladly see you back on the main page where we can interact with you to share your joys and creativity.
Until Facebook has a way to manage very large group format pages on their platform, we have to step back. This is our second attempt of a group page on Facebook that has been closed. Our first attempt was in 2011 where one of our team members was threatened with death threats in trying to moderate the page. Facebook has made great changes from the original format; however, it still does not have the proper tools we need to manage this group without draining the resources of the individuals and companies.
We hope you respect our decision. It was not an easy one, as we have donated well beyond our time to spread the love of crochet in this group page.
And you can read his open letter to Facebook here.
Social media has opened up to cyber bullying, cyber stalking, etc.
It’s super easy for someone to sit behind a computer and bully, harass, defame, slander, etc people. I have found it is really easy to create a fake account. I know of 6 people who have 4 accounts that they use to cyber bully, harass, cyber stalk, etc. And I am wondering how they have all this time.
The hardest thing for me is that social media has opened up to body shaming. Recently someone close to me was a victim of body shaming. A military wife decided to steal a photo of someone close to me off my Facebook. Another military wive turned it into something else. Then I was sent a group link by another military wife because it turned into body shaming. Grown adults who claim they are military spouses, men and women, calling someone fat a teenager fat. I went to defend as any one would do. And then quickly the body shaming was taken down and they turned themselves into a victim. I received death threats and threatened to be beat up. By military spouses and military members.
I reported it, I reported death threats. And Facebook told me it didn’t violate their Community Standards. So I sent all of my pages to a trusted friend and I deactivated my account. Because Facebook wouldn’t hold up to their own community standards.
It’s been weird without Facebook, I will admit. That instead of messaging someone I pick up the phone and call them. I have set time zones on my phone because I have friends around the world. So I know when to call, text, or email them.
And honestly it’s been great. Having an hour long chat with someone, and at one point fighting over who had the accent.
I’m still on Twitter and other social medias. I’ve just given FB a huge time out. Until they can actually take control of what they have created and find a better way to monitor it.
Hi! A little over 2 years ago I was sexually assaulted by a corpsman at a Naval Medical Hospital. Another corpsman watched and did nothing.
This assault affected me in ways that I still face today. I had demyelination occur. Diagnosed with PTSD, which I still battle today. I have haphophobia from this assault. I’ve battled with clinophobia, acousticophobia, and agoraphobia. I deal with the affects of this assault every day.
Why am I posting this? Because of what happened to me I stick up for other people. I stick up for people because when I needed it the most no one stuck up for me. I will continue to do so, no matter how it makes me feel inside, because I wasn’t afforded that opportunity and will give it to others.
I was brought to tears when people posted
Hi. My name is Jordan. A little over 4 years ago I was held in a house for 48 hours and repeatedly raped and beaten. Two of my friends were upstairs and did nothing.
This assault affected me in ways that I still face today. Aside from the physical bruises I was diagnosed with PTSD, attempted to take my own life and my previous anxiety disorder worsened. I deal with the affects of this assault every day.
Why am I sharing this? Because what happened to me has happened to others. And no one should have to fight this battle alone.
Hi, my name is Ella. When I was 16 I was sexually assaulted by my aunt’s husband. I thought I could trust someone I called family. I never told anyone because he threatened my life. He ended up getting caught doing the same to my cousin and was deported.
I suffer from body image issues and nightmares. I struggle to be positive about the way I look everyday. I suffer anxiety and I don’t keep my family close anymore.
Why am I sharing this? Because I know there are others that haven’t spoken up. But they should. Had I said something, my cousin may have been spared and I would have justice. You’re not alone, speak up. Tell someone, tell me even. Im here for you and I’ll fight for you.
I cried because I wasn’t alone
I’ve had to fight to get to where I am today. That I can step outside of my house without panicking. That I can touch someone I don’t know, hold in the panic, and then when I’m alone I use hand sanitizer or wash my hands to clean myself of their touch. That I have nights where I can fall asleep, because I’m not suffocated in fear. I’m still afraid of some noises, but I’ve learned to hold it in.
Why do I hold things in? Because I have learned to manage my PTSD. Because I’ve made leaps and bounds to get to where I am today. That I have the ability to hold things in. Because I used to fall down shaking, cause it affected me a lot.
When I step outside my home I know I’m not alone. I have the strength of others to carry me when I cannot.
Are you using your cellphone too much while out in public?
I had to go to Ulta for something and BAM look there, a World Market next door.
So after my little trip into Ulta I went to World Market.
I was super excited. I hadn’t been inside a World Market in what seems like forever, over a year. I slowly walked around, looked at things, and grabbed a few things. Then I went back to the paper section again to decide on what to get over there.
I can hear someone talking. I zone it out. I mean it’s what I do when I’m out shopping. People talk to other people, people talk on their phones, people talk. I just go to my little happy shopping place and don’t pay attention. But then something catches my attention.
An elderly woman tells a younger woman that she’s rude to be on her cell phone and she should get off of it. The younger woman apologies, excuses herself, proceeds to get off the phone, and then apologizes again and says “I am sorry if I offended you”.
The elderly woman began to yell at the younger woman. About how she had no respect for those around her and she shouldn’t be on her cell phone. Basically began to rant and rave to this young woman that what our society has done with cellphones is so rude. She got mean and nasty.
It triggered me. I walked over there and said excuse me ma’am, talking to the elderly woman. I said look this woman apologized to you several times and apologized if she offended you. She got off the phone just for YOU you don’t need to stand there and berate her. She isn’t your daughter or family, walk away.
The elderly woman huffed and went to say something. I cut her off. I said I heard you from way over there (pointed to where I was) and I walked over here to defend this woman because you took it a step too far.
I went home and told my husband. My husband said I was very nice about it that he would have said more.
Fast forward to like a week or so later I am at Target. It was my goal to find a pair of capri pants. I stopped walking cause my cellphone went off, made sure I wasn’t in anyone’s way and pulled it out. Saw it was my husband texting me.
An older woman saw me as she almost ran into me. She apologized and said “oh you’re on your cellphone”. I apologized and said my husband just texted me asking me to do something and I am thinking of ignoring him. She laughed. She said husbands always want to be answered right away. We both laughed and walked away.
I found 2 pairs of capri jeans, and left Target happy. I finally did answer my husband in the car. Oh and I do use my cellphone in Target due to their Cartwheel app.
So here is my question
Is it okay to use your cellphone while out in public at a shopping place. Or is it rude?
I’ve read up on Social Etiquette about cell phones on several sites. What I’ve learned is about 92% of adults in the USA have cell phones. There are places that you shouldn’t use a cell phone, like during church services. But what I read was generally if you are out in public it’s okay. I couldn’t find anything about shopping. But I did find out that if you’re walking on a sidewalk talking on your cellphone it might be rude, might not a 50/50 thing.
So what are you opinions? I’ve happily talked to my sons before while shopping and nothing has happened.
The CMC of the USN posted on FB asking if you could tell a future Chief Petty Officer something what would it be. He asked due to the incoming new CPO. So here is a letter to them.
Dear New Chief Petty Officers;
You are about to embark on a new journey one that you’ve worked hard on. And I commend you. But I’d like to take this opportunity to talk to you about a subject that is dear to me.
Take a look at your division and point to the rapest. Point to anyone who at any time has violated someone else sexually. Point to anyone who has made someone else feel violated sexually.
Point your finger!!!
Do you see those three fingers pointing at you back?
After you are pinned as a new Chief I want you to go to your Division and talk about sexual assault. Take a stand and say you are against it. That your division represents a part of you, and extention of you, and you will not tolerate sexual assault.
If you see an assault occurring stop it. I don’t care how high ranking they are. Stop it.
Sexual assault has become a big problem in the United States. And you can help stop it.
I urge anyone reading this to help stop sexual assault.
Congratulations on your promotion. But never forget about what you can do to prevent this from happening
Simply Being Elle 